it infuriates me when people tell me “lifes too short to not forgive people!” like NO lifes too short for me to continually allow abusive and manipulative behavior in my life and live in a constant state of anxiety bc I want to be “nice” or whatever
When people tell you to forgive, they’re not telling you to “be nice” to toxic people or even allow them to remain in your life and just act like everything’s okay. That’s not what forgiveness is. By all means, tell those people what you think of them and then get them away from you for good! Expel them from your life. Then never think about them again.
When you forgive someone you’re releasing the anger you have against them and allowing yourself to move on. It’s about you, not them. Continuing to live in constant hatred and disdain is unhealthy and exhausting and it keeps you so bogged down. And above all it gives them power against you. Letting go gives you the power.
Of course the problem is that forgiving isn’t easy, especially when people have so much trouble forgiving themselves. Sometimes it’s the hardest thing you will ever do. But know that it is something worth working towards.